As someone whose primary love language is physical touch, I used to think sleeping apart was a relationship red flag. A “sleep divorce”, no matter how rational it sounded, felt cold, like giving up the nighttime version of love.
Cuddling releases oxytocin, the feel-good hormone that helps us sleep. Sharing a bed isn’t just romantic, it’s healthy.
But people are particular about sleep. One friend needs a massage every night before bed. Another can’t stand the sound of her partner sneezing. Then, there’s snoring, blanket-hogging, and air-condition temperature wars.
At what point does tolerating someone’s quirks become martyrdom? Is it still intimacy if you love someone deeply… from the next bedroom?
It turns out I’m not as conservative as I thought. I love my privacy a little too much to cling to coupledom 24/7. A room of one’s own, every now and then, counts as precious me-time in my book.
And I’m not alone. More couples are experimenting with separate sleeping arrangements, not because they’re unhappy, but because they’re simply
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