You can also talk about the inherent tension in every marriage related to how a couple balances their respective desires in life. Try asking: How does each of us view the difference between equal and fair? (You mentioned the financial load. What does fairness mean to each of you in the ecosystem of a marriage?)
When you start conversations that are less about immediate decision-making and m
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