Dear Roe,
I’m a girl in my 20s and I have realised in recent years that I like girls. I have just finished college and I have had a group of friends since first year. My friends are aware I like girls. I have told them about dates I’ve been on. I’ve recently become aware that I don’t feel comfortable talking about these dates or girls I like with them. I thought that this was just me not being in a place where I am comfortable with myself yet, but I don’t seem to feel uncomfortable around other friends outside this group when I talk about dates. I brought it up with one of my closest friends in the group. I asked her how she felt about me liking girls and she said she doesn’t understand it, but it doesn’t bother her. I told her I don’t feel comfortable around the others and she tried to justify why they would feel uncomfortable. She said “maybe they think you like them”, or “maybe you’re the first gay person they’ve met”. I also asked why she said she wouldn’t date someone who is bi, and her answer was that she didn’t want to compete with two genders.
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