Dear Roe,
I’m in my 60s and in a relationship with a guy 14 years older than me. He’s very nice and pleasant, but I feel the relationship is lacking in so many ways. We have little or no intimacy. I’d like to ideally have a partner and possibly settle down even at this stage but he has said he wants to stay as he is. We haven’t gone “public” about the relationship and I’m beginning to wonder if we are just friends. We never sleep together and when we were away together recently intimacy was very limited. I feel like he uses an illness that he has as an excuse to be distant. I’m beginning to wonder what do we have? We have two hobbies in common and he helps me with my house, but that’s it. We rarely go out and financially I’m way ahead of him so I feel I have to drop to his limits. Having put this in writing to you I’m beginning to feel this relationship for me is more of a dream about the possibility of something deeper, but after a year it hasn’t happened. Recently we had a family occasion and initially he declined to go, stating it was a family event etc, but then switched to say if I wished for hi
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