Men Are Sharing Difficult Parts Of Modern Dating, And As A Woman, I Never Thought Of Some Of These

Dating is TOUGH, especially in this day and age. But personally, I can only speak to my experience dating as a woman. So when Reddit user u/jayrod699 asked, “What’s been the hardest part of dating as a man?” I was super curious to see what it’s like from another side. And some of the responses were actually super sad. Here’s some of what the guys had to say.

1. “The constant rejection. Get rejected a thousand times and you get more than a little gun-shy. The worst is when they assume it must be a joke. Because you have to be joking if you think she might be interested.”

“I have seen female friends cry for hours over the fact that one guy said ‘no’ when they asked him out, and how awful it was and how guys could never understand how they feel. Lady, guys get rejected all the time — we know how it feels.”

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“I had a couple of first dates last month, and all of them gave me their number, some of them said that ‘we should meet again’...none have replied when I’ve asked about going out on a date somewhere or offering a dinner. It’s been a month, and some of my messages are still marked as unread on WhatsApp.”

2. “For men, it’s the absence of opportunity on dating apps — the staggering lack of matches; the occasional match that goes unreplied; the conversation that evaporates after saying hi; the ‘maybe date’ that never materializes. It’s also the fear of social alienation or punishment in real life, as the internet has socialized young men to view approaching women as harmful or annoying (a courting faux pas). This puts men into a losing position as they don’t approach and are left unapproached — essentially a ship sailing alone, afraid to hail other ships and ignored by those that sail around them.”

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“I’ve been out of the dating pool for a few years now, but I still can’t forget the number of messages my (now) ex had in 2014. She likely had more messages (~250, iirc) in two months than I’ve received in some four years of combined dating accounts. And frankly, she wasn’t 10/10 or close to it, either.

“I was lucky to get five mystery likes a week on Tinder. I could go a month without receiving any new replies, just on there swiping away for four weeks with zero return.”

3. “After a while, trying to get a damn date for Saturday night feels like going hat in hand asking for money. I mean, if a female friend approached me and asked me to set her up with a 5-foot-11, 160-pound single guy who likes to bike and roller-skate, has a slight British accent, and is studying physics, my reply would be, ‘I can do that but can probably only get four guys that match this description exactly, and it’s gonna take me about 20 minutes.’ Whereas I ask a female friend if she has any single friends who would be interested in a guy like me, and I get a quick reply of ‘no.’”

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